When you meet that special someone, you will understand why it didn’t work out with anyone else.
On December 31, 2013 on the coast of Herzliya in Israel, I experienced one of the most exciting and propelling moments in my life. While everything was done to keep my proposal from my now fiancé, a secret, I picked up enough hints that suggested in the few days prior, I was only a few days away from the big question. I can’t tell you exactly what triggered the idea in my mind, the notion that my boyfriend of 3 and half years was getting ready to pop the question. But when I was on the yacht he had graciously loaned with a few dedicated skippers, sailing into the Mediterranean, I just knew that this would be one of the biggest moments of my life to remember. (And my gut was doing somersaults!)
Were we nervous? Heck yes! He didn’t know I knew, but I knew we were both the most nervous we probably ever remember being. It’s not that you aren’t ready, or have doubts, but taking that step is so meaningful and such a step will elevate your relationship so immediately, that the feeling can be compared to the step you take out of an airplane or a trust fall, when you close your eyes and depend on a partner to catch you. There are unknowns you didn’t realize would surface but the beauty of them are that they are yours to share, and like other exciting moments, you begin to understand that this one will mark the first of many.
My proposal was beautiful and quirky. Our anticipation, and the moments leading up to, ‘Yes!’ made air still and time nonexistent. His wish was for us to be alone, and we were. Just us, nothing, no one else but the sun and sea – A perfect place to reflect on our years together and forecast the first day of forever. The yacht began to rock a little more, so as he got on one knee, he needed the other for stability, now on two knees, he told me his happiest moments belonged to the mornings we woke together, and that he never desired to wake next to another, he pulled out the box, and proposed with the most beautiful ring I’ve ever seen. Eight hearts and eight arrows, to my best friend, and lover, an immediate yes!
So many aspects play into who you will be able to sustain and who will sustain you for many years. So what elements make my fiancé, fit to be my future husband? Tall, dark and handsome – most women’s ideal type, but he fits into a few more less superficial traits of an ideal partner, too. Adam is my best friend, he has a contagious passion for what he does, the desire to help people he loves, strength and seriousness when it counts, knows what he wants and can chill out and have the best time goofing off and keeping it light. How does that play into my personality? We complement each other in several ways. Adam is highly planned while I am more whimsical and spontaneous. I am an outdoors lover while Adam can watch movies all weekend inside. We both have our own unique styles, he like to write music and is an auditory learner while I am really into film and visual arts and most definitely a visual learner. We both work in advertising but in different spheres. We help each other at work, on family topics and encourage each other to keep things real and spend time with friends. We are both crazy about a little puppy named Georgie which fills up a big piece of our heart. He takes me with him on trips frequently, and shows me the world.
Life is beautiful but can come with a couple of wrenches thrown in. Who will see you through the good, the bad and the ugly? Who will you make sacrifices for, encourage and depend on? Each of these questions should be of paramount consideration when you are thinking about taking the big step.
The morning we got engaged, the weather in Tel Aviv was unlikely and inclement. By the time we had gotten in a taxi to take us to the port where we would board the yacht where Adam would ask me, the sun had burst into the sky, gleaming, and it became the most beautiful day out of our whole trip in Israel. I thought about the weather as we rocked on the yacht, moments leading up to the big question. When things get rocky and outside of the plan, there’s always a sun on the other side of the clouds waiting to shine. And faith, you gotta have a little faith.
I am excited, and feeling incredibly lucky to be marrying my best friend and such a beautiful person. Adam Singolda you’re a man to grow old with. I look forward to sitting on our bench for scores of years to come.
Love always, Victoria.
We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness – and call it love – true love.
~Robert Fulghum,True Love